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Monday, December 7, 2015

Why I Stopped Praying For Others...

that is...I have stopped praying for God to change others' behaviors towards me in exchange for God changing my heart towards others' behaviors towards me.  And here's the difference:

Instead of praying, "Lord would you stop that person from being an idiot," I choose to pray, "Lord, I confess I'm seeing that person over there as an idiot.  Thank you for your forgiveness and for the conviction that you don't consider that person an idiot - they are created in your image and you want to love them today through me."

Instead of praying, "Lord would you change my wife's choice of words," I choose to pray, "Lord, I want to reflect your attitude, love, grace, mercy and peace in this divine establishment called marriage.  May the tone of my voice, the touch of my hands, and the attitude of my heart be a reflection of you in my life.  I don't ask you to change my wife, but rather I ask you to change my sinful attitude toward the person you put in my life to remind me daily that I'm in in need of my Savior and Lord Jesus Christ."

Instead of praying, "Lord please make my children obey me," I choose to pray, "Lord thank you for my children.  They are a constant reminder that I am in need of you.  They are a constant reminder of how much I need to emulate the love of God the Father as their earthly father.  You're patient with my kids and today I submit my will, body, hands, tone of voice and entire being to let you love them however you want to love them.  Use me Lord."

So, in that way, I no longer "pray for others" (i.e. for God to change them), but rather I pray for myself.  That God help my unbelief.  

The Psalm that inspired this post...

Psalm 51 (NIV)

For the director of music. A psalm of David. When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba.

Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.
For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.
Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways,
    so that sinners will turn back to you.
14 Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O God,
    you who are God my Savior,
    and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.
15 Open my lips, Lord,
    and my mouth will declare your praise.
16 You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it;
    you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings.
17 My sacrifice, O God, is[b] a broken spirit;
    a broken and contrite heart
    you, God, will not despise.
18 May it please you to prosper Zion,
    to build up the walls of Jerusalem.
19 Then you will delight in the sacrifices of the righteous,
    in burnt offerings offered whole;
    then bulls will be offered on your altar.


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